I felt like sharing this with you, maybe you’ll appreciate them. I’ve lived my life surrounded by these and trying to live up to them.

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romantically attracted to them I guess? Like I have no desire to go on a date, I just think they look nice. And I feel really dumb because I can tell that they think it’s weird, and I just feel like… maybe I should want to go out with these people. But I only really find myself liking my friends that way, which isn’t really any better, because I’m not sure how the people I end up liking would react.

Especially the girls. I guess that the real question is; am I weird for not having feelings for people I don’t already know? Like, should I try to go out with strangers? Somehow I feel like that would be uncomfortable for me, but it’s hard when people ask me “who do you like?” and then think I’m weird because I can’t actually tell them.

First of all, you’re completely normal. You’re not weird, or anything. It’s not that uncommon.

I can relate to that, actually. Let me tell you about how I label myself, maybe you’ll relate to that.

I label myself as a demisexual, albeit a homoromantic one (I only develop feelings for people of the same gender/sex).

Demisexuality is a sexual orientation currently housed between sexuality and asexuality. A demisexual is a person who only develops sexual attraction after forming a deep emotional connection with someone.

In general, demisexuals are not sexually attracted to anyone of any gender; however, when a demisexual is emotionally connected to someone else (whether the feelings are romantic love or deep friendship), the demisexual experiences sexual attraction and desire, but only towards the specific partner or partners.

( http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Demisexual )

It doesn’t mean we lack libido or sense of arousal, it just means that it’s a tad more directed at a specific person or persons. Of course, everyone experiences that in their own way.

In my own experience, I can tell if someone is attractive. But their beauty appeals to me in the aesthetical sense. Like “Wow, that person is beautiful, bless them.”. And even when I look at pornography or reblog not-safe-for-work things, I tend to look at the erotic side, the sensuality and passion expressed by the people in it, rather than the actual aspect that they’re having sex.

I can’t picture myself wanting to date or have sex with someone I didn’t know well and didn’t know me well, and both being in love with each other. I mean, I don’t understand, I don’t even know this person, why would I want them in my intimacy? It makes little sense to me. As handsome or beautiful as they are, they don’t appeal to me, in a romantic or a sexual context. I just don’t know them.

According to one hypothetical model, a person who identifies as a demisexual does not experience primary sexual attraction but does experience secondary sexual attraction. In this model, primary sexual attraction is based on outward qualities such as a person’s looks, clothes, or personality while secondary sexual attraction is attraction stemming from a connection, usually romantic, or from status or how closely the person is in relationship to the other.

Though factors such as looks and personality do not affect primary sexual attraction for demisexuals (since demisexuals do not experience primary sexual attraction), such factors may affect romantic attraction, as with any other orientation.

( http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Demisexual )

It is sometime put under the gray-asexuality umbrella term, but, again, everyone experiences it differently.

So, I repeat, there’s nothing wrong with you. And nobody should judge you. It’s just your sexual orientation.

You don’t have to go out with strangers. You don’t have to go out with anyone you feel uncomfortable going out with. And others should recognise and respect that.

So don’t being afraid of being weird, because you’re not.

I hope this was useful for you. If you think you dont identify with this, it’s ok, let’s talk better and let’s see if I can help or someone else can help.

I remember when I got unfollowed for stating that heterophobia exists, per definition.

The point really is that we’re supposed to provide a safe living environment for the people around us regardless of who they are. It doesn’t matter if you’re a minority of a majority, you have the right to be happy. And you have the duty of treating others the way you would want to be treated.

You can only fight a force with its opposite. You fight disgust with acceptance, you fight violence with kindness, and hatred with love.

WELL THEN I’m BRACING mYSELF

blackstarryo:

I don’t understand the appeal of Rosemary.

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Bro, I replied here, because it was  more suited for it to have its own post.

http://naesnark.tumblr.com/post/41325571237

Note: I am simply a beginner. It’s likely to lack detail and/or accuracy.

If you have more knowledge of graphology, or know more resources, or have anything to point out at my analysis/concepts, please tell me! c:

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I know.

But keep in mind that these people really think they’re doing the right thing. They don’t want to purposely hurt their children, they want them to fit their standart of “normal”. Which is something that could and should be discussed, considering that these children suffer because of it.

Unfortunately, many are raised under the wrong light, denying values of acceptance, tolerance, and equality.

It’s really pointless to hate on these people, we need to educate them. And educate those who come after.

For now, this is all extremely frustrating. And there are many, many cases like the ones we just talked about. Councelors on homosexuality, camps to mold children into the straight and narrow, people marrying someone of the opposite sex because they either think they’re meant to or because they’re afraid of the consequences of not doing it.

Our only weapon is information and education. And I hope that, soon enough, we can make a difference.

naesnark:

BECAUSE DARRY REMINDED ME I FORGOT ABOUT THE HORNS (and teeth).

Alright, let me think of this… I knew about the sulfhemoglobine stuff but I had to do some research on the inheritance of teeth characters and on horns, in animals.

Teeth: They are affected by genetic inheritance. Shape, size, and possible mislocations. So, we have Rose, who is petite, so I’d say her teeth are small, which usually makes them prone to mislocations (brb imagining Rose wearing braces, which is adorable). Kanaya has perfect straight teeth with pointy canines; it is also likely that her teeth are sharper than human teeth.

So I’d say a person with nearly perfect teeth, but still a need for temporary braces (those you wear during the night for mild cases) and a natural tendency for sharp canines, but nothing too blatant.

Horns: I’d assume the Horn-gene would be dominant. However, since Rose has no genes to back it up, the influence on the child would be smaller.

I can see the girl having small horns, that she could easily hide under a hat, for example. And since Rose has no horn-genes, the horns in the child would have to be similar to Kanaya’s, for the lack of alternatives. Unless there is a gene that trolls have that induces variance.

(In case you were wondering if they fell like antlers, that is very unlikely. Kanaya’s horns are permanent and Rose lacks genes)

((continued.)) But I can still only really see myself romantically with a guy. So I guess what I’m asking is if it’s weird that I am attracted to girls’ appearance, and think they’re all really pretty and lovely and cute, but yet am only really attracted to guys romantically. It’s probably a weird question but, I don’t know. I feel like I must seem really odd to be like that…

You’re not really odd at all, honey. Romantic and sexual attraction can follow different directions.

For example, I am a homoromantic demisexual. Demisexual implies that I tend to feel sexual attraction towards those who become emotionally close to me, rather than look at someone and feel aroused. And, being a homoromantic, it means that I mostly have romantic feelings towards other females.

A friend of mine considers himself bisexual but has more sexual feelings for guys and more romantic feelings towards girls.

Sexuality and romance fit a spectrum and it usually means we’re more inclined to certain group than to another. It’s a pretty much hormonal and hormones tend go to overboard with things.

You’re absolutely normal. I hope you can find the one that makes your heart go doki doki and have a great fulfilling relationship with them.

Correct, heterosexuality is the norm, but that doesn’t imply that a group of homosexuals is not able to discriminate against heterosexuality.

We’re not speaking in terms of the size of the group, we are speaking of the actions taken against it.

A homophobic behaviour is a negative behaviour sustained against a homosexual for the fact that they are a homosexual, thus, a heterophobic behaviour should be a negative behaviour sustained against a heterosexual for the fact that they are a heterosexual

This is all that I am stating here. There should not be double-standarts because we are talking about one thing: discrimination. And it doesn’t matter who it affects, negative discrimination is wrong.

I do, and I’ve seen it.

We define homophobia as therange of negative attitudes and feelings toward homosexuality or people who are identified or perceived as being sexually a/o romantically attracted to the same gender/sex.

If you exchange the prefix “homo” with “hetero”, you have heterophobia, which would consist in the range of negative feelings and attitudes towards someone who identifies as being straight.

Thus, we have a vice-versa situation in which we label negative procedures against a determined group.

One should not base the definition of things regarding those who practice it. I have seen straight people being shunned from groups of gay people because of their sexual orientation.

Being a minority that has been oppressed doesn’t give us a free pass to oppress others. In fact, it should alert us to the fact that treating others baddly is wrong.

Equality is equality, and equality is accepting that all of us, gay, straight, binary, non-binary, and you can insert every single label in here, are meant to be treated fairly, with the same rights and the same kindness.

So, from the moment a heterosexual person is mistreated for the simple fact that they are heterosexual, we are looking at heterophobia.